The World Around Us Is Made Up of Our Own Perceptions
It can be said, that the world around us is made up of our own perceptions. If you’re privy to any sort of philosophical thought experiment, you may understand the frail nature of reality.
“If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?”
I divulge. The point is that reality is flexible. This can be an empowering thought, if we put in the work to empower ourselves to create our own beautiful reality.
Have you ever felt alarmingly unattractive or unwanted? We all have. Maybe you woke up with a big pimple, or to a disinterested message from a person of your interest. Whatever story you’ve already told yourself to feel unattractive or unwanted, these events help solidify that story. Said perfectly by Dr. Heshmat, of Psychology Today,
“Imagine that you have tried to reach a friend (with whom you have an ambivalent relationship) by phone (or email), leaving messages, yet have not received a call in return. In situation like this, it is easy to jump to conclusions in an intuitive manner that your friend wants to avoid you. The danger, of course, is that you leave this belief unchecked and start to act as though it were true.”
I want to elaborate on the intuitive manner depicted here. This is where the magic happens. This is where the choice resides. You may ask yourself, “Is this human avoiding me because I’m undesirable, or is this person potentially busy with their own life and doesn’t have an appropriate amount of free time to get back to me?” Potentially, it is the latter, and also, instead of getting angry with them for not responding (because they’re making us feel undesirable) maybe we can show them compassion, because they may be feeling stressed out, spread thin, or maybe they are in such a low place that they can’t muster up the energy or courage to phone or write you back. Maybe. Again, that’s the magic of the intuitive manner in which you interpret situations — it’s up to you to make it beautiful and full of love.
I’ve heard love described as being synonymous with understanding. Let’s start with ourselves. If we understand ourselves, and know how we are hurting, we can then love ourselves. If we are feeling undesirable because of a pimple or rejection, we can understand these insecurities, appreciate them, grow from them, and stop pretending that the world shares our insecurities.
EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING IN OUR LIFE, IS A MIRROR SHOWING US WHO WE ARE.
How are you feeling today? That flat tire will definitely let you know.
How do you feel about your progress and success in life? That old friend from high school you just ran into will definitely let you know.
How is your romantic relationship? Your partners friendship with that successful and attractive coworker will definitely let you know.
Notice — that flat tire, old friend from high school, or the attractive coworker all have NOTHING to do with you. They are external stimuli, that you interpret, merely to feed your own story of a “bad day”, “lame life”, or “rocky relationship”.
I want to invite you to see the more beautiful world our hearts know is possible.
Let’s do the work, love ourselves, and love others. Know that life is beautiful, by first realizing that we are beautiful. Our insecurities, our mistakes, everything. It starts with a choice.
P.S. love always wins.